This is more of a general topic of discussion than anything else. I see posts on the forum with some regularity where one person is talking about how their spouse, significant other, etc. just "won't stick to the budget". And a lot of the time, it seems to be because they don't want anyone telling them "how to spend their money". Or they feel like a budget is "too controlling". And let's face it, budgets are generally proposed as ways of controlling spending, increasing savings, all of that.
I am curious if anyone in this situation has tried changing the term "budget" to "spending plan" and seen if it made a difference? After all, that's what YNAB really is: your plan on how you are going to spend the money you have. That might be at some point in the distant future, but I don't think any of us have a budget category of "money I never plan on doing anything with". And I am thinking that people who may be resistant to "budgeting" might be more willing to sit down and work on a plan to spend money. This would include talking about what you want to spend money on, how soon you can spend it, and what, if anything, you would be willing to give up today in order to get to spend that money sooner. You might start off with the grandiose "when we retire, what are we going to do? Travel? Give money to the kids? Start up that little shop we've always wanted?", and then the more immediate dreams: vacations, new car, buying a home, getting that sweet new electronic gizmo, etc. Then start talking about what you need to do in order to get there.